Name Your Pain

“And when David and his men came to the city, they found it burned with fire, and their wives and sons and daughters taken captive. Then David and the people who were with him raised their voices and wept until they had no more strength to weep.” 1 Samuel 30:3-4 (ESV)

Sometimes life can surprise you with circumstances you did not see coming. You get the wind knocked out of you and you experience pain that lingers like a low-grade fever. Maybe you are there right now as you seek to make sense of this intrusion of adversity.

David and his warriors return from war expecting a warm welcome but were greeted with the smell of devastation. Their city had been burned and their families taken captive. Grief saturated their emotions as pain crashed upon them like a tidal wave.

Have you noticed how we try to cover up our pain? In fact, so much of life is actually pain management. We try to ignore our pain, or suppress our pain, and escape our pain. If only we could forget about our pain for a little while, then we would be able to catch our breath and take a few more steps forward.

God is teaching me that grieving is part of the cleansing process in which He addresses areas that need to attention. It is wise to name your pain. Learn to grieve with specificity rather than treading water in the sea of ambiguity. God will meet you at your point of need. Take time to grieve your losses. Feel everything God wants you to feel as you lean into His unconditional love.

Following Jesus Every Day,

Stephen Trammell