“It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.” Matt 5:31-32 (NIV)
Jesus affirmed the value of marriage. Instead of committing your life to your spouse for a season and then looking for an exit, seek to finish together. Marriage is hard work. We are by nature self-centered and self-absorbed. In marriage, you move from me to we. You move from serving yourself to serving your spouse. Protect your private castle. In other words, protect your marriage relationship. You are in a covenant relationship with your spouse before Almighty God. Here’s one of the many ways to protect your private castle.
Delete divorce from your vocabulary. Seek to eliminate divorce as an option when things get tough in your marriage relationship. Don’t allow divorce to be your first option. When you go through a difficult season, seek outside help. Secure a godly Christian counselor and allow that person to help you navigate the path to restoration.
I am so blessed to have a godly mother who loves the Lord and has served Him faithfully. When I was about seven years old, my godly mother had to make a very difficult decision to divorce my dad due to his excessive alcohol abuse and violence. Divorce was not my mother’s first choice. She exhausted every other option available to her at that time, but she had to ultimately divorce my dad to protect the safety and security of our home and family.
Divorce is painful and has perpetual consequences. If you have gone through a divorce, know that God still has a plan for your life. You are not defined by your divorce. Your value has already been established by what God did for you in Christ.
Pursuing God,
Stephen Trammell
Executive Pastor
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